by Helen Chin Lui
What if all it takes is asking yourself “what if? My entire life has consisted of many “what ifs”. I have been pushed to the edge so many times. I probably can say I have lived out of my comfort zone more than within it as I challenged myself over and over every time I heard “what if?”
What do my “what ifs” look like? Please let me share some snapshots of my life with you.
I think it started in my 20’s after I finished college when I was trying to figure out what I was supposed to do with my life. During that decade I heard many callings, one of which was the possibility of marriage to my high school sweetie who has been my life partner for 42 years now. I thought this would be my big “what if”, but with the aid of the universe and my wand, I also heard many other “what ifs”!
Some highlights. What if I became a model? I knew I couldn’t do runway or fashion modeling because of my 5’2”height so I fulfilled a life purpose dream by being hired for some print ads for financial institutes, and I was once assigned to do a shoe model gig for a shoe manufacturer. That was a lot of fun, but strange, and weird when I had a bunch of men staring at my feet and “oohing” and “aweing’ at the pretty little shoes I was wearing. Foot fetish I suppose. Hmm…..
After my short-lived modeling career, an intuitive friend came along with some guidance, and I was able to manifest a kick ass job at a local, radio station. Keep in mind I did not go to school for media, nor did I have any media experience. I was hired as an administration assistant at WBZ Radio back in the early 80’s and at the end of five years, I left as a senior radio producer working with great talent such as, Dave Maynard, Larry Glick, Ron Robin, Charlie Jeffrey and Bob Raleigh.
As a radio producer I was exposed to the various Boston media outlets. One of my fondest memories came when a casting company for the TV show, “Spencer for Hire” called WBZ looking for some help with casting. They were looking for an Asian woman and man to do a one minute, silent walk on, for one of the Spencer for Hire episodes. With a gleaming shout I said “I’m Asian” and I can help you with this part. Then they asked if I knew of an Asian man. I thought of my husband, whom I knew would decline, then of my brother, Jan, who would love to do something like this. So we both said “yes.”
With no knowledge of TV production, it took 12 hours to tape a half hour show. My brother and I had a one minute, silent, walk on part. During the filming, everyone was committed to staying on the set until filming for the day was completed. What my brother and I didn’t realize was how much down time there was in between scenes. We waited 9 hours for our segment to be filmed. We repeated our scene at least 12 times. I got really good at “walking on”. After our scene was over, we had to wait another 3 hours until filming was complete in case the director wanted to do some retakes.
During this 12 hour period we got to see the ins and outs of making a TV show. It was a cold and damp day, long, tiring, and somewhat boring and repetitious. My brother got sick from standing in the cold weather, waiting all day, and I was just plain bored. Acting wasn’t for either one of us. This understanding helped ease the disappointment when an invitation to audition for the movie “The Witches of Eastwick”, turned to nothing. My acting career was short lived.
On to the next 3 decades…..
In my early 30’s, I heard the next “what if” again when I heard my biological clock ticking. It was time to start a family so I left the job market to raise two fine young men with my husband.
I heard the next “what if” again in my early 40’s when it was time to go back to work. I wanted to go back to the radio business, but it was hard to get back in. So I decided to go back to the corporate world of office management. This is what I knew. It was something to do but not particularly gratifying or fulfilling. It was a place to go until I figured out what to do with my life. Asking and waiting for the next “what if?”
The next “what if” came in my early 50’s. This time the “what if” came with “yes you can”, and with instructions attached. This time I heard the instruction, but I was shaking like a leaf when I heard that I was going to be doing something that was totally out of my comfort zone. The calling said that it was time to go back to school to learn the holistic healing arts. I hadn’t been in school for 30 years at this point. I wasn’t even sure that my brain still worked. I thought for sure when I gave birth 20 years earlier not only did I give birth to two babies, but I also pushed out a part of my brain during the process.
Out of nowhere, people started to come to help, guide and support me. I studied Reiki, Reflexology and Energy Medicine. With my accumulated life and professional experiences, I opened my business, the Healing Place in 2006. To date, I have helped hundreds of people to heal themselves, start their spiritual journey and taught many people about various healing arts such as reiki and introduced them to reflexology guiding them in their first step to their spiritual journey.
All this came from asking myself, “what if?” If I can do it, so can you, so think about your “what ifs” and make a list of what you would like to accomplish in your life. If you need guidance with your spiritual journey and help finding what direction you would like to take, I offer a free 30 minute consultation by calling 508-359-6463. For information about my services, visit www.healingplacemedfield.com
Helen Chin Lui is a certified Reflexologist and certified Energy Medicine Practitioner. She is the owner and founder of the Healing Place located in Medfield, MA. She specializes in helping people with digestive disorders. If you would like to schedule a free 30 minute consultation or would like to make an appointment, call 508-359-6463. For more information about her services, visit www.healingplacemedfield.com.