Do you think waiting for what you want will make you happy?

One of the things I noticed about being happy and getting happy is that they are NOT interchangeable. We think by waiting for something—perfect job, perfect marriage, lose that 20 pounds, get that diamond bracelet, whatever—those things or events in our lives are going to make us happy.

One of the important lessons I have learned on my journey that things we accumulate do not give us the lasting “happiness” we are seeking.

Yes, we all seek happiness through how comfortable we are: a partner who will love and support you the way you want to be loved, the right house in the right neighborhood, the children that you can devoted years to and the job that will give you a deep down satisfaction knowing that you are making a contribution and you are enjoying good health.

You may be one of those people who are fortunate enough to obtain those “necessities” that supposedly make you happy, healthy and employable. But something still doesn’t feel right and it is nagging you.

You can’t put your finger on it but it constantly haunts you like a character in those horrible “b” movies where the “boogy man” comes out of closet and haunts you until you relent to its will or it kills you.

We all have a default happiness button. The usually categories are “very happy, happy, not so happy, unhappy, disappointed, not so disappointed very disappointed.”

Most will not know why they are disappointed or angry, but the disappointment loom over our heads like a dark cloud that just won’t turn into a sunny day. What is your default button?

I have been extremely blessed! Most people will say that I have the perfect life, perfect husband, perfect kids, perfect occupation, but there is something that still doesn’t feel right.

I keep waiting for things to make me happy, almost like waiting for next drug dosage. Even though I supposedly have EVERYTHING, I sometimes feel like I have NOTHING. You are probably thinking, “What does she mean”?

The funny thing is all my life I have gotten “things” and yes, they make me happy, but the happiness induced by material things or external circumstances only last for a little while, and slowly the happy drug wears off and I am looking for the next “happiness” hit.

This time I need bigger and stronger dose of external happiness.

Jump start your way to happiness

Being happy is something that needs to be consciously worked on almost from the moment you wake up. Believe it or not, you have a choice to be happy. You can decide how you want to start your day and set your “happiness button.”

Some people start off with some type of movement exercise. I start my day with a walk with my puppies, Kirby and Milo. While walking I make my connection with God and express gratitude for my every moment.

Kirby and Milo are my constant companions. They love me on my good days and off days regardless what is going on in their lives, just like the universe or God.

I have a gratitude journal. I spend a couple of a minutes once or twice a week entering my successful moments no matter how small the successes are.

Exercise your spirit – find a few minutes every day to feel your spirit within. Try not to judge what you are feeling, but just to observe.

Find what makes you happy in this moment and then build from it.

Choose to be happy now

You have a choice to be happy right now, right this minute. How? Make a choice. Happiness is like a muscle, you have to keep exercising it in order to give you that constant feeling of well-being.

What I notice when I am happy –

My mood changes for the better
I am no longer waiting for things that I think will make me happy
I am in the moment
I feel I have more time
I feel peace
I no longer having highs and lows but a constant sense of well-being
I have broken my chronic “when is it coming” feeling
I am connected to the universe and God
I am no longer anxious
I really enjoy the task at hand instead of dreading it

Do more things that make you happy within instead of looking for things outside of yourself to make you happy.

Practice being happy every day. It takes time to be consistently happy especially when you have been programmed  (your default button) to be a negative person.

About the writer – Helen Chin Lui is a Certified Reflexolgist, Certified Energy Medicine and Reiki Practitioner. She is the founder and owner of the Healing Place in Medfield.

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