Appreciate all the Loves in Your Life Including Yourself – #HappyValentines Day

Valentine’s Day is one of those days that you either observe with love or disdain.

When my children were young, I would spend a tremendous amount of time making special foods for them and their dad. I always make a special dinner and a chocolate cake (see the recipe below). For my children’s classmates, I would make chocolate lollipops for them to pass out with their Valentine’s cards. I miss those days now that my children are adults and have their own lives. I am waiting to have grandchildren so that I can repeat those joyful days.

For those who have special people in their life, Valentine’s Day can be a day filled with gestures of love and kindness. If you are going through a romantically challenging time, Valentine’s Day can bring a lot of emotional conflict and pain.

What about people who do not have a “love” ritual or have been valentine-less for a long time?

Valentine’s Day could be filled with anxiety. You are reminded how lonely you are by the constant bombardment of red heart-shaped boxes of candy, flowers, and stuffed animals with “I love you!” signs every place you go.

Most of us either have or are looking for a soul mate. What happens when one isn’t found? Does that mean that there is something wrong with us? No, there isn’t! Instead of looking for someone outside of you, it is time to go inward and find self-validation.

Everyone needs to work on being self-sufficient and having a fulfilling life outside of another person. It’s crucial whether you have a partner or are single.

Instead of wishing for someone to come into your life, how about enhancing what you already have? If you don’t have a loving partner outside of yourself, how about focusing on your love for yourself? How about taking the time to fulfill your needs?

Self-Love Tips

1. Say something kind to yourself today. Ask yourself, what do I love about myself? Can you list ten traits you like about yourself? Recite your list to yourself while standing in front of a mirror.
2. Learn not to overextend yourself and how to say “No.” As much as we want to do for everyone else, how about saying “no” when you don’t feel like doing something or going somewhere?
3. Stop self-judging. This task is a hard one for women. Declare yourself a Judgment Free zone.
4. Find joy. Do something every Day that gives you pleasure and enjoyment. Don’t wait for someone to make you happy. Make yourself happy.
5. Treat yourself like you are your own best friend.

Support Yourself with Healthy Self-Love?

Reiki Master and Meditation Practitioner Robin Kemp Bornstein and I discuss what we do daily to keep our energy uplifted and flowing.

Take time and reflect on who you are and love yourself on this Valentine’s Day!